DA vs High School Soccer: “Honestly, it’s the parents who want HS soccer”

DA vs High School Soccer: “Honestly, it’s the parents who want HS soccer”

I recently spent time with a high level girls soccer team who joined the girls’ DA in the inaugural 2017 season. This team is full of NCAA D1 commits, and even a few US Soccer National Team selectees. The girls began their high school years in the ECNL (Elite Clubs National League).

A top-level club coach offers insight into DA vs High School soccer

I asked the coach how the girls seem to feel about having to miss their junior and senior seasons of high school soccer.

“The girls have handled it really well.  US Soccer and the DA came in and made sure the girls and the families understood that sacrificing high school soccer would be worth it, and they’ve all bought in.”

“The boys’ DA has been around for a long time, and you’ll see players leave the DA during their senior year to play that one senior season of high school soccer, but that’s not happening on the girls’ side. I thought the girls would have a harder time missing high school soccer. A lot of people did. But the girls have all seemed to buy into the system. I think as the years go on and the DA keeps improving, even more players will not worry about missing playing for their high schools.”

The coach then added something very interesting when he said,

“Honestly, it’s the parents who miss high school soccer more than the players.”

Later that day, I spoke with a girl who is in the middle of her senior year. I asked her how she feels about not being able to play high school soccer.  Her high school consistently fields a very strong girls’ soccer team.  She stopped to think for a bit, and said, “Yeah, I miss it. But I don’t miss it as much as I thought I would. The level of training and the level of the games we play with DA is not even close to high school. I understand why the DA doesn’t want players leaving for a few months to go play high school soccer.”

Question to parents: “Do you miss high school soccer?”

Her parents were nearby, so I asked them, “Do you miss high school soccer?”

Their answer was emphatic and instant, “YES! High school soccer is so fun. We really miss it. In a perfect world, she’d be able to do both, but we understand.  High school soccer is really fun, though.”

The players response compared to the parents’ response, combined with the coach’s insight, made me stop and think.

The players don’t seem to miss high school soccer as much as the parents do.   Is it because the parents grew up in a world where high school sports were a rite of passage, and they don’t want their kids to miss out on such a wonderful experience? Possibly. Is it because the parents of high-level soccer players love seeing their usual mid-level players become super stars on their high school teams?  Perhaps.

Whatever the reason may be, the coach may be absolutely correct when he said that it’s really the parents who are the driving force in the DA vs High School battle.

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    Patrick 2 weeks

    Basic human psychology, when presented with a reasonable alternative, it is easy to not miss the original option. If I’m given sugary soda instead of candy, over time, the candy becomes less important.

    Likewise for the players, if they love soccer, they won’t miss playing for the high school, but they do miss an unique and valuable experience that makes them well-rounded and socially advanced.

    What is missing when we create an elite-athlete scenario, like described in this article, is the camaraderie and learnings gained from the high school experience. Too often these days we push children into “adult” competitive levels of sports, and kids lose the chance to build a unity with those they are schooled with. With the HS experience, kids learn to have loyalties beyond just competitiveness which make them well-rounded members of society.

    It is too frequent that “elite” athletes get to adult stages in life and they cannot function like normal humans, making bad decisions, being physically or verbally abusive, not able to manage finances and quite frankly lacking optimal social skills.

    Yes parents love HS sports. Selfishly, it is fun to watch, to have rivalries and to bring parents of the kids together – build a community – it’s been that way for decades. But beyond the parental selfishness, HS sports help create an extended family, where there is care given to not only one’s child, but for the community of students. Where competitiveness is shared among the highly skilled and the less skilled. Where the team is more than a team but part of something bigger, where non-players can feel like they are part of the team and success. You just don’t get this with Elite and DA programs.

    Maybe if the HS sport experience was emphasized, we’d see less school shootings, drug use, and unfortunate accidents and create better humans out of the kids.

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      Very good points. If the US is to be competitive globally in soccer, though, what should be the solution for the players at that level? I think that too many parents wish their kids were at that (national team) level and push them into elite leagues, sacrificing the valuable social growth, as you describe. I have quite a few opinions about our American national team and our global competitiveness, but they are not popular among soccer fanatics.

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